I have some good news for everyone. We are almost there. 2020 is almost out the door and with it 2021 will be ushering in some new energy. I can hear the collective sigh now…..I’m with you!
Outside of a world-wide pandemic, the holidays are a hard time for many people and families. During the best of times things can amp up. During these #togetherapart holidays I am noticing in my energy healing work that many have reached the “zero f*cks left to give” point.
Nod your head if you are with me…
You start to feel that tell-tale slimy, buzzy energetic overload and you become overwhelmed. “My relationship has so many issues, I give up”! “My kids are driving me crazy, I don’t care anymore – sure give the family dog a haircut using the Crayola scissors” “Susan doesn’t think my business will survive this pandemic. I am afraid and feel paralyzed with doubt.” “Why does my boss hate me?”
If you are tuned in energetically you know the “ick” I’m talking about here. That feeling of being overwhelmed is a gift to us! Yes, a gift! It is a big neon sign the Universe is giving you to tell you that you’ve got some energetic freeloaders. If you are a sensitive person to energy then you know that it doesn’t necessarily take much to catch those energetic freeloaders. Some time spent at the grocery store or a zoom ‘dinner party” with people we actually want to be around can leave us feeling weighed down.
Let’s dive deeper here into what a common underlying problem is. It’s this magical three syllable word called boundaries! For the most part, I believe we intuitively have a knowing of boundaries. Cue the song “Hungry Eyes” from the movie Dirty Dancing. Picture it with me: Johnny (Patrick Swayze) is teaching Baby (Jennifer Grey) how to dance: Johnny: “This is my dance space. This is your dance space. I don’t go into yours, you don’t go into mine. You’ve got to hold the frame!”
If you are sensitive to energy, you’ve got to learn to “hold the frame!” Being able to sense the unique vibrational signatures of others translates in one sense to picking up feelings and emotions. When we are clear and have healthy boundaries in place this is a wonderful gift, not a curse I promise! It means we are able to consciously help friends and loved ones and create a lot of healing in the world. When we are not clear and do not “hold the frame” another person’s energy can pass into our sacred space and suddenly we have energy freeloading going on. You’re feeling all these things that are not yours and most likely trying to solve those problems and feelings for the other.
Here is why I love the dancing analogy. When dancing the two partners are co-creating together by knowing which steps belong to them. They are being present in the moment and with intent carefully moving with respect to the others movements. Together they build a framework of movement, of energy.
What to do when people breach our boundaries and we are overwhelmed?
Do not run away. I know it’s going to feel like you want to, but don’t. Running away can take on many forms. Physically running away or shrinking within ourselves. Emotionally checking out. Becoming ungrounded. And the list goes on.
My mentor has taught me something which I have brought into my own practice and I wish to pass it on here. When you are feeling this way, face it instead of running away and ask yourself:
- Is this really me? Are these feelings really mine? (90% of the time no it’s not)
- If they aren’t, then whose are they?
- If they belong to “Jane,” do you need to really carry this for them?
- No? Good. Now give it all back to them completely as it is. No more, no less. Literally hand it right back. It is not your karma. Not your dance space.
When you clear out energy that doesn’t belong to you or serve your life’s purpose you really do begin to feel great. Many people will feel a sense of refocus, lightness of the body, reduced anxiety, and a deep peace.
The above is really just the beginning. Working with an energy healer or mentor if you are in the field will help you go deeper and clearer. If you have passed the point of feeling overwhelmed and you’re swimming in the sea of burnt out, I really encourage you to speak to your energy healer and doctor for a completely holistic approach.
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